Stress and Anger

Written by Reeta Luthra - http://reetaluthra.com

Although Anger is not the greatest feeling, it is actually as natural and normal as Love.

Suppressing anger is harmful. Suppressing anger can lead to things like anxiety, depression, apathy, sudden and violent outbursts and bullying.

Expressing your anger without control is harmful too. It can destroy relationships, raise your blood pressure, cause a host of health problems and possibly even land you in jail.

Habitual Anger vs Stress Anger

Although the lines between the two are blurred, there are two types of anger:

Habitual anger is a learned response. You've been taught or you have learned that being angry is the best way for you to deal with a situation. While it might have worked in the past, now you are finding the frustration and anti-social ways of habitual anger are having a negative effect on your life.

• Habitual anger responds well to cognitive behavioural anger management techniques taught alongside new ways to respond.

Stress Anger runs deeper and feels more uncontrollable and volatile. Anger is very closely tied to our values and like stress, it is triggered by the evolutionary fight or flight impulse. When we feel threatened in some way, the resulting stress generates anger to prompt us into doing something about it. Although it is possible to experience stress without anger, it's rare that you experience anger without stress.

Stress justifies and validates your anger. Anger gives you more to stress about.

• Stress Anger responds well to techniques that change your response to the triggers of your anger. Very often, this means resolving key events from your past that are causing much subconscious stress and driving you to respond in anger.

Signs That Anger Is Taking Over

Here are some signs that you need to address the stress and anger in your life:

• You find yourself angry all the time or around certain people
• You are known for your temper
• Your immediate response to a disagreement is to shout or lash out
• You become engaged in self-abuse & self-harm
• You repress your own values & desires
• You often feel bitter, resentful and frustrated
• You feel helpless that your options have been taken away from you

It's worth addressing these signs before the stress of anger precipitates physical health problems such as colitis, a stroke or heart disease.

Treating Anger

Anger Therapy helps you take anger out of its "emotional arena" and put it into an "action arena". An arena of action diffuses the anger and introduces peace.

My approach encompasses a range of psychotherapy methods, specially blended to offer a highly solutions-orientated and effective approach to clearing the pain and conflict of inner stress. Especially prolonged, deep-rooted stress and the way it fuels anger. These include NLP, CBT and EFT, expertly tailored to your own specific circumstances to address all of the aspects of your issue and strengthen your personal identity.

Stress Anger is a product of accumulated and suppressed stresses. Although these can be difficult to face initially, a successful therapy for anger helps you to resolve the emotional triggers from the past as well as the present.

By changing the intrinsic way you think about and deal with issues, you create calmness and focus that has your best interests at heart.

Please contact me if you would like help with resolving your anger. There is no obligation and your call is treated in confidence.

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