April 30th, 2010 by Reeta Luthra
Multi-tasking is second nature to many of us and has practically become a survival skill that we display with pride in the busy, hectic world we’ve created for ourselves.
This morning my second client call ran on longer than expected. After I had written up my notes, I switched on my links to the outside world – outlook, skype and twitter – and a short time later, found myself having one of those surreal and lucid moments when it feels like you are watching yourself doing something ridiculous and need to stop.
I was composing 3 email replies, replying to messages I’d received on twitter and exchanging instant messages with someone on Skype. Although I was, to my mind, not compromising the quality of what I was doing, it was frankly a pain in the rear.
My mind would get a jolt as I flicked between the windows, having to re-familairise itself with what was going on in that particular frame. And it took me longer to actually finish and send those emails than if I’d just focused on them one at a time.
I mentioned this on twitter and @JeffreyGuterman, Assistant Professor of Counseling at Barry University, replied that he believes that following through on one thing at a time is more productive. He also pointed me to a very interesting article on How Does Multi-tasking Affect Memory?
Sometimes we need to multi-task simply because we have to get lots done. Other times, we do it out of habit or because we don’t realise that we do have other options.
Our mind is forced to store information wherever it can
Multi-tasking splits our attention. As we flit from one task to another, our mind is forced to quickly store information wherever it can. Because it hasn’t been stored “properly” it becomes harder to retrieve later. Basically, if you think of the mind like a computer, multi-tasking causes fragmentation.
But unlike a computer, we don’t have a defragmentation button to press to slot everything back in its rightful place. We end up getting stressed. We forget things, do rush jobs, are short to people and lose sight of the real reason that we started doing that task anyway. It becomes hard to prioritise something when we are flitting back and forth so much and so quickly that the reason for the task is not registering properly. We’re doing things “blind”.
We get a false sense of what’s important to us
Because we’re not being terribly mindful to each activity, we lose sight of our values as we judge ourselves by the quantity of what we do rather than the quality.
You put the blackberry next to your plate at dinner, mull over whether or not you’ve given your secretary all the information she needs to prepare that presentation, barely taste the meal that you’re eating and give half an ear to your son’s excitement (or distress) over something that happened at school.
It makes us ill
As we continue to do a hundred things at once, the stress builds up causing emotional, physical and hormonal disruptions in our body. As well as picking up bad habits like not making time to exercise or eat well, we can suffer migraines, panic attacks, low self-esteem, rage and a whole host of other symptoms.
We need to be busy because boredom too is dangerous. But we don’t need to busy ourselves in a way that suffocates our potential.
It suffocates our potential
Our body puts up with a lot from us and copes remarkably well considering all the pressure we put ourselves under with toxic thoughts, un-met values, “artificial” ingredients in food and chemicals we rub into our skin.
But for long-term good health and well-being, our mind really does need space to relieve itself from this pressure.
Ultimately, every single one of us is a spiritual being in that we all feel a specialness inside ourselves that is unique to us. This specialness is unstoppable, it’s like a seedling and its intrinsic nature is to grow and express itself.
“Blind” multi-tasking suffocates this specialness. It doesn’t stop it but it does stunt its growth. And this results in one of the unhappiest things we can do to ourselves – live a pretend-busy life built on pretend-priorities based on pretend-values.
What is your experience of multi-tasking?
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April 28th, 2010 by Reeta Luthra
There is a strong relationship between self-appreciation and self-esteem.
Self-esteem enables us to live our lives with confidence and take decisions based on the integrity of our values.
Self-appreciation is the act of recognising the benefits of the qualities that we have. Many of our qualities are so intrinsic that they become like wallpaper in that they add colour and depth to your personality but you no longer notice them.
Conscious self-appreciation allows us to pay homage to the depths of our personality and as we recognise and are grateful for these qualities, these qualities begin to shine and radiate their glow throughout your being.
They have a right to exist and you have a right to polish, frame and admire your “wallpaper” – your self-image – every day.
You’ll feel good when you create your list of things you appreciate about yourself for the very first time. However, to really notice stronger self-esteem, it’s a good idea to develop a habit of recognising your qualities every single day.
The easiest way to do this without turning into some “navel-gazing, self-help junkie” (as one fabulous client worried about), is to pick any random activity and recognise your qualities responsible for making you do that activity in the way that you wanted to do it. Activities really can be anything – from brushing your teeth to the way that you dealt with a confrontation. Think about how that quality is important to you and how it shows up in so many positive ways throughout your life.
You don’t have to publically tell everyone of course, but if you’re shy or not in the habit of thinking about yourself, putting a list out there in public can be quite symbolic.
Here goes me…
10 Things I Trust and Like About Myself
Yael Brisker is a talented artist. She creates the most beautiful metalwork and also teaches empathy. This post is inspired by Yael’s article 10 things I can trust about myself -and like too!
I’d love to know what you trust and like about yourself too – please do add a comment below or even on your own site with a link to this post so we can trackback to your post
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