Comments for Reeta Luthra: Stress and Your Health http://reetaluthra.com/blog Helping Your Mind Look After You Fri, 18 May 2012 07:30:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on 4 Habits that Build Emotional Strength and Stability by Reeta Luthra http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/01/03/4-habits-that-build-emotional-strength-and-stability/comment-page-1/#comment-23310 Reeta Luthra Fri, 18 May 2012 07:30:12 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1378#comment-23310 Hi Rishita, even though your situation might feel over-whelming, like most things, there is a way through it. One of the most important priorities for you is to gain a sense of self-empowerment. I know you feel a jumble of emotions and obligations... do you also fully understand (as opposed to have an awareness of) your motives and current blocks that keep you locked? You went to your husband to escape your father. You went to your boyfriend to escape the hopeless marriage. If we were working together, I'd be helping you to address that underlying need that drives you to "escape" rather than "deal with". Your husband had a reason to hold back for 6 years and to accept that you were with another man. He's also got his own reasons for changing now. Your boyfriend has a reason to devote himself to you, a married woman. But their reasons are their own "lessons" in life. You've got your own to deal with. The nature of your relationship with one of these men will have to change to give you peace of mind. To change the relationship in a way that feels good to you and your future, you need to understand yourself much better so that your actions are kind and honourable to both of these men who mean so much to you. I hope this helps in some way. If you want to talk about this privately, please feel free to email me directly reeta@reetaluthra.com Hi Rishita, even though your situation might feel over-whelming, like most things, there is a way through it.

One of the most important priorities for you is to gain a sense of self-empowerment. I know you feel a jumble of emotions and obligations… do you also fully understand (as opposed to have an awareness of) your motives and current blocks that keep you locked?

You went to your husband to escape your father. You went to your boyfriend to escape the hopeless marriage. If we were working together, I’d be helping you to address that underlying need that drives you to “escape” rather than “deal with”.

Your husband had a reason to hold back for 6 years and to accept that you were with another man. He’s also got his own reasons for changing now. Your boyfriend has a reason to devote himself to you, a married woman. But their reasons are their own “lessons” in life. You’ve got your own to deal with.

The nature of your relationship with one of these men will have to change to give you peace of mind. To change the relationship in a way that feels good to you and your future, you need to understand yourself much better so that your actions are kind and honourable to both of these men who mean so much to you.

I hope this helps in some way. If you want to talk about this privately, please feel free to email me directly reeta@reetaluthra.com

]]> Comment on 4 Habits that Build Emotional Strength and Stability by rishita http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/01/03/4-habits-that-build-emotional-strength-and-stability/comment-page-1/#comment-23292 rishita Fri, 18 May 2012 02:52:37 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1378#comment-23292 i am very confused and scared..i feel total lethargy nowadays..i m depending on people too much..i hate this vulnerability..i don't believe i can do anything anymore..feel sort of dead inside..scared to meet people..help me please.. i had a bully father and to escape him got married very early and the guy i married was almost like a robot..no kids..failed treatments..after 6 yrs of hopeless marriage i fell in love with someone..he was good to me..made me feel loved and lively..my husband knew this and had no problem with it..in a way tht disgusted me the most.. but now, my husband is a changed man.. wants reconciliation..i m wavering..i cant turn my back on him..and at the same time, the man i love is also there..both of them are friendly with each other..respect each other and they just want me in their lives..its totally bizzare..i cant live two lives.. i m scared to have kids..they wouldn't understand me.. they would judge me and find me morally corrupt... i m in a self-imposed exile now.. cant live this life..cant lose the man i love and cant turn my back to the man i married..he has no one but me..what to do? i am very confused and scared..i feel total lethargy nowadays..i m depending on people too much..i hate this vulnerability..i don’t believe i can do anything anymore..feel sort of dead inside..scared to meet people..help me please..

i had a bully father and to escape him got married very early and the guy i married was almost like a robot..no kids..failed treatments..after 6 yrs of hopeless marriage i fell in love with someone..he was good to me..made me feel loved and lively..my husband knew this and had no problem with it..in a way tht disgusted me the most..

but now, my husband is a changed man.. wants reconciliation..i m wavering..i cant turn my back on him..and at the same time, the man i love is also there..both of them are friendly with each other..respect each other and they just want me in their lives..its totally bizzare..i cant live two lives..

i m scared to have kids..they wouldn’t understand me.. they would judge me and find me morally corrupt…

i m in a self-imposed exile now.. cant live this life..cant lose the man i love and cant turn my back to the man i married..he has no one but me..what to do?

]]> Comment on 4 Habits that Build Emotional Strength and Stability by Reeta Luthra http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/01/03/4-habits-that-build-emotional-strength-and-stability/comment-page-1/#comment-22741 Reeta Luthra Wed, 09 May 2012 04:15:30 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1378#comment-22741 Maybe you've ruined nothing Tracy. Sometimes you have to pick your battles and maybe resigning has been the better long-term choice for you. If you recognise a pattern, see if you can break it. Is it something you are doing/not doing that keeps putting you in a position of constantly "upheaveling and sabotaging"? It's not wrong to ask for help (it's actually a strong and brave choice) that helps you develop the confidence and "right" to see and make your own choices. Now that you're between jobs with a bit of time on your hands, see if you can focus it on yourself in a helpful way. Dowload "The On-Purpose Person: Making Your Life Make Sense" by Kevin W. McCarthy from Amazon. If you don't have a kindle, they also have software so you can read it on your computer. It's worth it. Maybe you’ve ruined nothing Tracy. Sometimes you have to pick your battles and maybe resigning has been the better long-term choice for you.

If you recognise a pattern, see if you can break it. Is it something you are doing/not doing that keeps putting you in a position of constantly “upheaveling and sabotaging”?

It’s not wrong to ask for help (it’s actually a strong and brave choice) that helps you develop the confidence and “right” to see and make your own choices.

Now that you’re between jobs with a bit of time on your hands, see if you can focus it on yourself in a helpful way. Dowload “The On-Purpose Person: Making Your Life Make Sense” by Kevin W. McCarthy from Amazon. If you don’t have a kindle, they also have software so you can read it on your computer. It’s worth it.

]]> Comment on 4 Habits that Build Emotional Strength and Stability by Tracy http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/01/03/4-habits-that-build-emotional-strength-and-stability/comment-page-1/#comment-22701 Tracy Tue, 08 May 2012 12:55:47 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1378#comment-22701 Great Article! From a survivor of a Alcholic chaotic childhood, to an adult that is constantly upheaveling, sabatoging and in the meantime -- that sabatoging hurts others around me. Ugh! So tired of this same game. I've just ruined yet another opportunity for a descent career by leaving instead of standing my ground -- of resigning instead of fighting. Now its everyday fighting depression, back on the job market, trying to figure out a new career, despite the negativity and dissapproval and hurtful comments of "so called friends" who label me as "horrible" --- being aware of my achiles heel and taking responsibility is a BIG one, I want others to help and tell me what to do, but its time to grow up -- article was encouraging during this difficult time, thank you. Great Article! From a survivor of a Alcholic chaotic childhood, to an adult that is constantly upheaveling, sabatoging and in the meantime — that sabatoging hurts others around me. Ugh! So tired of this same game. I’ve just ruined yet another opportunity for a descent career by leaving instead of standing my ground — of resigning instead of fighting. Now its everyday fighting depression, back on the job market, trying to figure out a new career, despite the negativity and dissapproval and hurtful comments of “so called friends” who label me as “horrible” — being aware of my achiles heel and taking responsibility is a BIG one, I want others to help and tell me what to do, but its time to grow up — article was encouraging during this difficult time, thank you.

]]> Comment on Depression: Brain Fog, Clouded Thinking and Confusion by David Vick http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/23/depression-brain-fog-clouded-thinking-and-confusion/comment-page-1/#comment-19994 David Vick Sun, 11 Mar 2012 20:05:29 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=961#comment-19994 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">RT @ReetaLuthra: Depression: Brain Fog, Clouded Thinking and Confusion http://t.co/7ETU236Q</span></span> RT @ReetaLuthra: Depression: Brain Fog, Clouded Thinking and Confusion http://t.co/7ETU236Q

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]]> Comment on 4 Habits that Build Emotional Strength and Stability by Imal Wagner http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/01/03/4-habits-that-build-emotional-strength-and-stability/comment-page-1/#comment-12218 Imal Wagner Thu, 17 Nov 2011 09:50:48 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1378#comment-12218 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">RT @ReetaLuthra: 4 Habits that Build Emotional Strength and Stability http://t.co/C6T4IqAN</span></span> RT @ReetaLuthra: 4 Habits that Build Emotional Strength and Stability http://t.co/C6T4IqAN

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]]> Comment on 10 Things I Can Trust and Like About Myself by Kim@How To Manage Stress http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/04/28/10-things-i-can-trust-and-like-about-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-10842 Kim@How To Manage Stress Fri, 14 Oct 2011 08:36:28 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1232#comment-10842 I love this article! You brought up some very good points and I totally believe in these aspects of our lives having a profound effect upon the quality of our lives. An attitude of gratitude is always the attitude of a winner! Thanks! Kim I love this article! You brought up some very good points and I totally believe in these aspects of our lives having a profound effect upon the quality of our lives. An attitude of gratitude is always the attitude of a winner! Thanks! Kim
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]]> Comment on Do Self-Help Books Really Work? by How to juice maximum value from your self-help books | Robin Dickinson http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/22/do-self-help-books-really-work/comment-page-1/#comment-8667 How to juice maximum value from your self-help books | Robin Dickinson Sun, 03 Jul 2011 11:33:20 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=951#comment-8667 [...] This post was inspired by a recent article by Reeta Luthra, called Do Self-Help Books really Work? [...] [...] This post was inspired by a recent article by Reeta Luthra, called Do Self-Help Books really Work? [...]

]]> Comment on Living Together… But Is My Relationship Serious? by Elizabeth R. http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-7560 Elizabeth R. Sun, 01 May 2011 18:19:36 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-7560 Living together may be a common alternative to marriage, but it is absolutely not a proper commitment. It is not a commitment at all, and for that reason is a huge source of stress, often subconscious, for both parties because they are engaging in behaviors (i.e. sexual relations and setting up housekeeping) that are properly reserved for marriage but without any commitment or covenant. It's just "I'll do this as long as it works form me." How sad that in the situation you describe there is now a child being born into a non-family. Because another myth is that children derive their security simply from being 'loved and treasured' by their parents. The fact is, a child's greatest security comes from knowing their parents are in love with each other and have a strong marriage. Let's stop with the false, politically correct pop-psych. Living together may be a common alternative to marriage, but it is absolutely not a proper commitment. It is not a commitment at all, and for that reason is a huge source of stress, often subconscious, for both parties because they are engaging in behaviors (i.e. sexual relations and setting up housekeeping) that are properly reserved for marriage but without any commitment or covenant. It’s just “I’ll do this as long as it works form me.” How sad that in the situation you describe there is now a child being born into a non-family. Because another myth is that children derive their security simply from being ‘loved and treasured’ by their parents. The fact is, a child’s greatest security comes from knowing their parents are in love with each other and have a strong marriage. Let’s stop with the false, politically correct pop-psych.

]]> Comment on Free Jack Canfield Video for the EFT 2011 Tapping World Summit by Diana Fiddle http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/02/01/free-jack-canfield-video-and-the-2011-tapping-world-summit/comment-page-1/#comment-7335 Diana Fiddle Mon, 18 Apr 2011 09:31:51 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1449#comment-7335 Hi, Reeta! I just want to tell you that I enjoyed reading this post. I'd like to read and hear more from you. I truly believe that EFT has helped a lot of people especially those who are really lost and couldn't find how to break out from those emotional baggages. My sister gifted a free tapping eBook to my husband who has emotional baggages of his own, something we both worry about. Hi, Reeta! I just want to tell you that I enjoyed reading this post. I’d like to read and hear more from you.

I truly believe that EFT has helped a lot of people especially those who are really lost and couldn’t find how to break out from those emotional baggages. My sister gifted a free tapping eBook to my husband who has emotional baggages of his own, something we both worry about.

]]> Comment on IBS, Incontinence and Stress of a Bad Marriage by Shawn http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2009/11/16/ibs-incontinence-and-a-bad-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-6522 Shawn Sun, 13 Mar 2011 02:45:26 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=4#comment-6522 Interesting and tragic. I knew that stress and IBS were linked, but I'd always assumed that stress was not a cause of bloating. Thanks for the info. I've found that meditation and particularly dietary changes have made a big difference for me. Thanks for the insight. Shawn Interesting and tragic. I knew that stress and IBS were linked, but I’d always assumed that stress was not a cause of bloating. Thanks for the info. I’ve found that meditation and particularly dietary changes have made a big difference for me.

Thanks for the insight.
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]]> Comment on Do Self-Help Books Really Work? by Simon http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/22/do-self-help-books-really-work/comment-page-1/#comment-6473 Simon Fri, 11 Mar 2011 13:55:15 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=951#comment-6473 Great post thanks, in my experience many self help books are written based on one individuals experiences (mainly just their successes). Unfortunately what works for one person doesn't always work for another. People should be skeptical about purchasing self help books (i'm not saying don't) as not to simply let it run their lives. People should discover things for themselves and should only use self help books as occasional guidance in my opinion. Great post thanks, in my experience many self help books are written based on one individuals experiences (mainly just their successes). Unfortunately what works for one person doesn’t always work for another. People should be skeptical about purchasing self help books (i’m not saying don’t) as not to simply let it run their lives. People should discover things for themselves and should only use self help books as occasional guidance in my opinion.
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]]> Comment on Does Your Environment Stress You Out? by Reeta Luthra http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/02/21/stress-environment/comment-page-1/#comment-5813 Reeta Luthra Mon, 14 Feb 2011 09:07:48 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=621#comment-5813 I like yoga too, it's a great leveller. And you seem to have found the perfect teacher! I learnt from DVD's initially and then took classes (which I need to start up again). Really nice to get your update Carole, can't believe it's been a year! I like yoga too, it’s a great leveller. And you seem to have found the perfect teacher! I learnt from DVD’s initially and then took classes (which I need to start up again).

Really nice to get your update Carole, can’t believe it’s been a year!

]]> Comment on Does Your Environment Stress You Out? by Carole Heath http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/02/21/stress-environment/comment-page-1/#comment-5757 Carole Heath Fri, 11 Feb 2011 06:36:07 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=621#comment-5757 Yes Reeta i have found ways of reducing less stress in my life since i last put my comment on your site in 2010, i have taken up Yoga at Westcroft sports centre in Carshalton which isn't far from from me. I go once a week as i belong to an over 50's club there. The work-out is good and the meditation at the end of the session is very relaxing as the tutor Sophia has a lovely calming voice and she sings to the class to help us really relax and she is so laid back it rubs off on you. I pratice at home now a few times a week the Yoga work-out and i have brought myself a Yoga mat. I would suggest to anyone who needs to de-stress their lives more take up Yoga, you don't have to be that good at it but you do progress as time passes. The benefits to helping you feel more relaxed i felt almost straight away. So you know Croydon Reeta yes also very busy now like Wallington. Yes Reeta i have found ways of reducing less stress in my life since i last put my comment on your site in 2010, i have taken up Yoga at Westcroft sports centre in Carshalton which isn’t far from from me. I go once a week as i belong to an over 50′s club there. The work-out is good and the meditation at the end of the session is very relaxing as the tutor Sophia has a lovely calming voice and she sings to the class to help us really relax and she is so laid back it rubs off on you. I pratice at home now a few times a week the Yoga work-out and i have brought myself a Yoga mat. I would suggest to anyone who needs to de-stress their lives more take up Yoga, you don’t have to be that good at it but you do progress as time passes. The benefits to helping you feel more relaxed i felt almost straight away. So you know Croydon Reeta yes also very busy now like Wallington.

]]> Comment on Your Privacy Matters by Reeta Luthra http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/02/03/your-privacy-matters/comment-page-1/#comment-5644 Reeta Luthra Sat, 05 Feb 2011 05:37:14 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1468#comment-5644 Hi Julie, good to see you - I'm certain that your clients appreciate your discretion. You showcase your skills without exploiting them. Hi Julie, good to see you – I’m certain that your clients appreciate your discretion. You showcase your skills without exploiting them.

]]> Comment on Free Jack Canfield Video for the EFT 2011 Tapping World Summit by Reeta Luthra http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/02/01/free-jack-canfield-video-and-the-2011-tapping-world-summit/comment-page-1/#comment-5643 Reeta Luthra Sat, 05 Feb 2011 05:16:28 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1449#comment-5643 Thank you Yael - it's great to see you again :-) Thank you Yael – it’s great to see you again :-)

]]> Comment on Free Jack Canfield Video for the EFT 2011 Tapping World Summit by Yael Brisker http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2011/02/01/free-jack-canfield-video-and-the-2011-tapping-world-summit/comment-page-1/#comment-5637 Yael Brisker Fri, 04 Feb 2011 23:23:21 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1449#comment-5637 Dear Reeta Good to have you back...loooking forward to more from you, Love Yael Dear Reeta
Good to have you back…loooking forward to more from you, Love Yael

]]> Comment on 10 Things I Can Trust and Like About Myself by Joe Williams http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/04/28/10-things-i-can-trust-and-like-about-myself/comment-page-1/#comment-5620 Joe Williams Fri, 04 Feb 2011 05:08:48 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1232#comment-5620 Your blog always makes me think, I have just bookmarked it! Your blog always makes me think, I have just bookmarked it!

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