http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/ Helping Your Mind Look After You Fri, 18 May 2012 07:30:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-7560 Elizabeth R. Sun, 01 May 2011 18:19:36 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-7560 Living together may be a common alternative to marriage, but it is absolutely not a proper commitment. It is not a commitment at all, and for that reason is a huge source of stress, often subconscious, for both parties because they are engaging in behaviors (i.e. sexual relations and setting up housekeeping) that are properly reserved for marriage but without any commitment or covenant. It's just "I'll do this as long as it works form me." How sad that in the situation you describe there is now a child being born into a non-family. Because another myth is that children derive their security simply from being 'loved and treasured' by their parents. The fact is, a child's greatest security comes from knowing their parents are in love with each other and have a strong marriage. Let's stop with the false, politically correct pop-psych. Living together may be a common alternative to marriage, but it is absolutely not a proper commitment. It is not a commitment at all, and for that reason is a huge source of stress, often subconscious, for both parties because they are engaging in behaviors (i.e. sexual relations and setting up housekeeping) that are properly reserved for marriage but without any commitment or covenant. It’s just “I’ll do this as long as it works form me.” How sad that in the situation you describe there is now a child being born into a non-family. Because another myth is that children derive their security simply from being ‘loved and treasured’ by their parents. The fact is, a child’s greatest security comes from knowing their parents are in love with each other and have a strong marriage. Let’s stop with the false, politically correct pop-psych.

]]> http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-1263 Simon Roskrow Thu, 29 Apr 2010 22:52:00 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-1263 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">RT @ReetaLuthra From the archives: Living Together - But Is My Relationship Serious? http://bit.ly/96XlTP</span></span> RT @ReetaLuthra From the archives: Living Together – But Is My Relationship Serious? http://bit.ly/96XlTP

]]> http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-1983 Reeta Luthra Thu, 29 Apr 2010 19:38:08 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-1983 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">From the archives: Living Together - But Is My Relationship Serious? http://bit.ly/96XlTP</span></span> From the archives: Living Together – But Is My Relationship Serious? http://bit.ly/96XlTP

]]> http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-685 Reeta Luthra Tue, 30 Mar 2010 22:05:08 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-685 Definitely a coffee one day! :-) Definitely a coffee one day!

]]> http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-681 Yael Brisker Tue, 30 Mar 2010 18:25:18 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-681 Big (-: Um well, in a sense I did and that was part of the "problem"- but hey, this we will discuss over coffee one day,ok? And yes I agree about being in tune with my core values, except for me, they formulated later in life... I love your points of view...keep 'em coming. .-= Yael Brisker´s last blog ..<a href="http://connectingwithempathy.blogspot.com/2010/03/pregnant-waiting.html" rel="nofollow">Pregnant Waiting</a> =-. Big (-:
Um well, in a sense I did and that was part of the “problem”- but hey, this we will discuss over coffee one day,ok? And yes I agree about being in tune with my core values, except for me, they formulated later in life…
I love your points of view…keep ‘em coming.
Yael Brisker´s last blog ..Pregnant Waiting

]]> http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-1984 Reeta Luthra Tue, 30 Mar 2010 17:23:42 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-1984 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">Living with someone? How do YOU know if it's serious? http://bit.ly/96XlTP - share your advice!</span></span> Living with someone? How do YOU know if it's serious? http://bit.ly/96XlTP – share your advice!

]]> http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-678 Reeta Luthra Tue, 30 Mar 2010 16:45:08 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-678 Hi Yael - true romance is when you're both in tune with your core values :-) Good luck with your kids - did you listen to your Mum?! Hi Yael – true romance is when you’re both in tune with your core values Good luck with your kids – did you listen to your Mum?!

]]> http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-677 Yael Brisker Tue, 30 Mar 2010 15:25:41 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-677 Dear Reetha You summarize in such a clear and concise way topics which, maybe had I had them to think about I would have chosen a different partner - who I later parted from, but that's not the point. It's so unromantic on one hand but on the other can make relationships much deeper, I believe.Thanks for this and either I'll use it next time :-) or pass it on to my kids when they're of age...if she'll listen! Dear Reetha
You summarize in such a clear and concise way topics which, maybe had I had them to think about I would have chosen a different partner – who I later parted from, but that’s not the point. It’s so unromantic on one hand but on the other can make relationships much deeper, I believe.Thanks for this and either I’ll use it next time or pass it on to my kids when they’re of age…if she’ll listen!

]]> http://reetaluthra.com/blog/2010/03/29/living-together-but-is-my-relationship-serious/comment-page-1/#comment-1916 Reeta Luthra Mon, 29 Mar 2010 20:00:11 +0000 http://reetaluthra.com/blog/?p=1026#comment-1916 <span class="topsy_trackback_comment"><span class="topsy_twitter_username"><span class="topsy_trackback_content">►New: Living Together… But Is My Relationship Serious? http://goo.gl/fb/0cVt</span></span> ►New: Living Together… But Is My Relationship Serious? http://goo.gl/fb/0cVt

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